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Guest Vlog: Young, Hip & Married’s Tips on How To Keep the Love Alive During Wedding Planning

June 23rd, 2014 by Jeannine

Guest Vlog: Young, Hip & Married's Tips on How To Keep the Love Alive During Wedding Planning

When Shawn Miller of Young, Hip & Married contacting me about doing this vlog, I jumped all over it because I experienced it when I was planning my wedding. I mean, we got in a big fight over colours and to have or not have a limo! Crazy! When all was said and done, I realized that I was sweating over the small stuff and completely lost sight of why we were having the wedding in the first place. Planning a wedding can be a huge ordeal so I can see how it can easily take over a bride’s life… but it really doesn’t have to consume you. Check out Shawn’s fantastic tips… I wish I knew about this before. Hope it helps keep the tension between you and your hubby-to-be at bay. Here it is now, straight from Shawn…


As a wedding officiant I often hear about couples wanting a cool and unique wedding ceremony, but what is often forgotten is the amazing story that comes before the ceremony and wedding planning process. When I talk to couples, I often hear them say that they are finding the wedding planning process stressful. Most wedding officiants and marriage commissioners will tell you that they’ve seen their fair share of couples who drift apart during the planning process.

Young, Hip and Married

Do not worry, if you feel that you and your future spouse are slowly getting disconnected because of the pressure that comes with planning a wedding, know that you are not alone. Most couples go through a stage where they don’t “feel” as close as they did when they first got engaged.

It can be very easy to put your relationship on the back burner as you set out to plan your wedding. In our premarital coaching at Young Hip & Married we are continually reminding couples of the reason for the wedding in the first place, your relationship and love for each other.

Young, Hip and Married Luckily, this little glitch is fixable. There is no magic formula but with a little awareness and some wedding advice it is possible to avoid the stress and stay connected during the planning process:

  • Take a break from the planning process. You can take a night off or even better, a day off, from planning your wedding. Make it a pact to never talk about anything related to the wedding. No discussion about what food should be served, what flowers should be displayed or what colours should serve as your theme. Instead, focus on one another and what is going on in your life outside of the wedding. Spend some time asking each other questions and find out how your fiancé is feeling. You’ll find that taking a step back from planning will help you reconnect and serve you both in the long run.
  • Incorporate things that make your relationship unique into your wedding. Young Hip & Married’s awesome team of wedding officiants will always advise our couples to make their ceremony all about them. And what better way to do this than by throwing bits and pieces of your personalities as well as your interests into the ceremony? Whether you like music or are into fantasy literature, incorporating the things that make your relationship unique and special to you adds a personalized touch. Plus, planning becomes a lot more fun and easy when you are talking about the things you love.

Some examples could include:

  • Throwing in a memento of where you had your first date (be it a photo or a souvenir you’ve kept all these years).
  • Having your officiant tell the story of how you met and fell in love
  • Playing the theme song to one of your favourite TV shows
  • Having your wedding based on the theme of your favourite show or film
  • Incorporating friends and family into the ceremony.

All of our officiants want their couples to remain happy throughout the wedding planning process. This is why a lot of importance is put upon the love you have for each other during our ceremony writing and planning sessions. We don’t want you to forget the reasons why you’re having a ceremony in the first place and not just a huge party. So, take these quick tips into consideration and apply them in your own planning process. The goal is to keep the love alive amidst the potentially stressful planning of your dream wedding and to, not just plan a wedding, but plan a lifetime.

~ Shawn Miller

Young, Hip & Married

Vendor bio: Young, Hip & Married is a team of fully licensed wedding officiants and relationship coaches led by husband & wife team Shawn and Erika Miller (who is also a photographer, by the way). They help engaged couples create one of a kind ceremonies that truly represent who they are. They also offer pre-marital or post-marital coaching services to help strengthen your bond. Visit their website and follow them on Facebook and Twitter to keep up with their updates.

Feature photo from Shutterstock, all others provided by Young, Hip & Married

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  • June 30th, 2014 at 7:30 pm
    Jelger + Tanja says:

    We’ve seen young, hip & married at work and they are awesome! They truely do what they say: their ceremonies are so personal. :)

  • July 3rd, 2014 at 1:36 pm
    Vancouver Wedding Photographer says:

    wedding officiants and relationship coaches led by husband & wife team Shawn and Erika Miller (who is also a photographer, by the way) –

    That’s a winning business plan right there!


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